Knowing how to make small talk is a ppl skill, I think. Many ppl dont know how to make small talk. These ppl are usually busy, results oriented individuals that they ahve big goals and they dont see the point of making small talk. Small talk is seen as meaningless conversation motivated by social politeness. Its lack of meaning and value, BUT you do it because that's the proper thing. Well, I couldn't disagree more with this idea. In my definition, small talk is conversation on safe and somewhat superficial subjects like weather, the news, the hottest movie or the latest fashion, but it is not meaningless conversation. Well, we have to learn to stay away from meaningless conversation too. Personally, if I dont enjoy it and dont find significance in it, I do one of two things. I change the subject. Or I eject.

Making small talk makes a lot of sense with ppl we've just met! Imagine asking a person we know for 30 seconds: "So, how's ur sex life?" That is waaayyyy to intrusive! So when I make small talk, the subjects may be superficial for comfort, but they're subjects I care about and I approach in straightforward manner. Just bear in mind that small talk is not a destination. Its just a temporary station. If an interaction with a person goes well, do move the conversation to deeper and more personal topics. and you get to know how to have charisma and engage others in more intimate conversation, building a highly fulfilling social life :)

 

 

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